WHO STANDS ON WHAT SIDE OF THE ALTAR? AN EXPERT GUIDE

Planning a wedding involves careful coordination, like a beautifully choreographed dance, encompassing the processional, recessional, and everything in between.

Among the crucial aspects of the ceremony is determining the positioning of the bride and groom at the altar. While there are customary practices regarding which side each stands on and where their families sit, ultimately, the decision rests with the couple and their officiant.

In reality, various cultures and religions do not adhere to a fixed convention, and couples have the freedom to choose their placement based on personal preference.

CHRISTIAN WEDDING CEREMONY

From the perspective of the attendees, it is customary in a Christian wedding ceremony for the bride to stand on the left side and the groom on the right. Likewise, their families will be seated on their respective sides. This long-standing tradition has its origins in ancient European customs. In medieval times, the groom would often position himself on the right side to keep his sword arm free, ready to protect his bride from potential attackers or suitors who might try to disrupt the ceremony. However, there are also more romantic interpretations of this tradition, such as the idea that the groom stands with the bride on his left because it is closer to his heart.

JEWISH WEDDING CEREMONY

In Jewish weddings, the positions of the bride and groom during the ceremony are reversed compared to the Christian tradition. The bride stands on the right, while the groom stands on the left under the chuppah. In alignment with this, the bride's parents will stand on her right side, and the groom's parents on his left. This tradition may have its roots in a biblical verse that mentions "at thy right hand doth stand the queen.”

HINDU WEDDING CEREMONY

In a traditional Hindu wedding ceremony, the bride actually changes sides during different rituals. Initially, she stands on the groom's right side, but once the marriage is officially recognized, she moves to his left. This transition occurs because the left side is considered to be closest to the groom's heart, adding a sentimental touch to the tradition.

LGBTQ+ WEDDING CEREMONY

When it comes to LGBTQ+ wedding ceremonies, there are no specific rules or traditions regarding sides for the couple or guests. However, there are various considerations to be taken into account when planning where people will stand or be seated. It is beneficial to hire an experienced professional officiant who can work with each couple to ensure that their ceremony reflects their values and their unique relationship, while also addressing logistical aspects effectively. As a result, the ceremony can be a true reflection of the couple's love and individuality.

HOW TO DECIDE WHO STANDS ON WHAT SIDE OF THE ALTAR

If you have the flexibility to choose your position during the wedding ceremony, there are several factors to consider:

SUN PLACEMENT

The position of the sun can greatly impact your special day. While clear skies allow for an outdoor ceremony, having the sun in your eyes can be bothersome. Prior to your wedding, visit the ceremony location at the same time as your event to determine where the sun will be. Your venue coordinator and planner can provide assistance in this regard.

WEDDING STYLE

Let your wedding attire guide your decision on which side to stand. For instance, if your dress features ruffles on one side that you want your guests to see, ensure that you stand in a way that highlights that side. If religious or cultural traditions dictate a specific side, communicate this to your hairstylist to ensure your face is visible from that angle.

PHOTOGRAPHY CONSIDERATIONS

Your wedding photographer plays a crucial role in capturing beautiful moments. Consult with them to determine if there are preferred angles or sides that will look best in photos. Their input can be valuable when deciding where to stand during the ceremony.

PARENT’S PERSPECTIVE

While it is customary for the parents to sit on the same side as their child, there are advantages to switching things up. Consider having the parents seated on the "opposite" side of the aisle from where you and your partner stand. This way, they can have a better view of their child's face during the ceremony, which can enhance their experience.

DOES IT REALLY MATTER WHERE THE BRIDE AND GROOM STAND

In short, no. You and your future spouse can stand on whichever side of the altar you prefer, and your loved ones can choose their seats accordingly. Unless conforming to tradition or religious rules is of great importance, the position of the bridal couple and their guests is flexible. The logistical aspects and flow of the ceremony should take priority.

Ultimately, regardless of where people stand or sit, the most important outcome is that you and your partner will be married at the end of the ceremony!

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